Couples Therapy
If you and your partner are having trouble resolving conflict, finding it difficult to connect intimately, or are challenged managing differences in attitude and energy, then it may be time to seek help.
Devoting an hour a week to meet with a couples therapist and discuss what you want your relationship to be will help you to grow, better communicate, and feel more deeply in love. Our relationships should be nurtured, prioritized, and developed. It may be time to figure out what’s getting in the way of feeling in tune with your significant other.
Offerings
Sex therapy. I work with a lot of clients who are looking to cultivate more satisfying sex lives. Couples come to see me because they have inactive sex lives, desire discrepancy, differing desires, and other challenges with sexual intimacy. This work can be delicate and intimidating; it can also be fun, exciting, and life-changing.
Improving Conflict Resolution. Couples who argue, bicker, and fight more often and more intensely than they would like often come to see me for help reducing the frequency, duration, and intensity of their conflicts. I help clients recognize destructive patterns, identify the parts of themselves that get activated in an unhelpful way, and communicate in a more sensitive, vulnerable, and thoughtful manner.
Recovering from infidelity. I help couples who are looking to heal and rebuild after one partner has kept secrets that are detrimental to the relationship. In couples therapy as I practice it, clients are able to express their anger, disappointment, and remorse, address and tend to long-standing issues in the relationship, and re-establish trust and transparency.
Navigating consensual non-monogamy/polyamory. I help couples, throuples, and all sorts of partner configurations to navigate the complexities of having an open or polyamorous relationship. My work in this area is influenced by Jessica Fern’s Polysecure, in which she uses attachment theory to help non-monogamists cope with jealousy, cultivate compersion, and maintain their intimate connections to multiple partners.
Reconciliation of differing financial outlooks. Clients often have challenges because their attitudes about spending, saving, and making money differ to such a large degree; I work with couples so that we can see differing attitudes as complementary to one another, rather than threatening to the relationship.
Substance abuse. It’s often valuable for couples in which one or more partners have challenges with substance use to seek therapy. This can help clients to identify the ways in which substance use may be having a negative impact on the relationship and gives them the opportunity to reflect on and change their relationship to alcohol and other substances.
Navigating separation. I see a lot of couples who are considering separating or are in the process of separating. If clients are trying to work things out, we spend time reflecting on what’s positive in the relationship and what could be improved. If clients are in the process of separating, we discuss and anticipate what it looks like to individuate from one another and we look at and plan for the more practical aspects of life after separation.
Family Planning. Couples who are attempting to have children, undergoing IVF, considering having children, having difficulty conceiving, or who have recently had a child or children often find it useful to see a therapist. In couples therapy, family planning clients can make space to discuss challenges and the pain and difficulty of the process. They can also work to improve and reconcile growth areas in their relationship prior to having children. Some couples seek therapy to help them consider, anticipate, and prepare for the practical and emotional trials and tribulations of raising kids.